Breaking Wedding Traditions
Posted on April 04 2018
You don’t actually “have to” do anything
When planning my wedding, I couldn’t believe the number of times that I heard the expression “but you have to…” from just about everyone – friends, vendors, parents, co-workers, you name it! This was generally in response to my husband and I considering shirking the wedding traditions that didn’t make sense to us, and instead exploring alternatives that felt right.
But you have to wear heels! It’s your wedding day!
But you have to have a first dance! Do it for the photos!!
But you have to have the same number of bridesmaids and groomsmen! What about the symmetry of the photos?! (*gasp*)
But you have to serve a full sit-down meal! It’s what people expect!
…the list goes on.
This struck me as interesting, since as a modern woman living in Canada in 2018, I am rarely met with “but you have to” in other areas of my life. While marriage is a traditional institution, the concept of committing to love and support another person forever feels timeless rather than traditional. Given that the reasons that people get married have changed, and gender roles within marriage have changed, why shouldn’t weddings and the wedding industry evolve too?
Our policy is to embrace the wedding traditions that fit into your idea of a perfect wedding, and to give the finger to the ones that don't work for you. After all, daring to question tradition is the only way to achieve progress, and that is something that we can all get behind…especially if it involves maintaining the circulation in our feet after 3 hours of pictures!!